La jalousie
La jalousie
This psychosis begins in middle age of life on a background of paranoid character (distrust, pride, hypertrophy of the ego, sensitivity, false judgments, rigidity of mind) as a result of a conflict often psycho important variable.
From a perception or a real sensation, the patient constructs a systematized delusions, often of persecution, in which everything takes on personal meaning for him: he judges often intentional and malicious chance.
These deductions are likely and sometimes even the patient may present evidence that cause doubt and sometimes even membership of the entourage.
the outbreak of the delusion is sudden and fast at a very real and accurate: especially injury, lost a lawsuit, a low injury, a delayed progress, reform postponed …
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Upon becoming morbid jealousy is a nightmare for one who suffers … and for those who experience it.Different therapeutic approaches can, if not ‘cure’ this poison, at least to control the adverse effects.
Anne-Laure Gannac
The morbid jealousy is an outstanding writer. Prisoner of a bad run, it is seen in the skin of the anti-hero betrayed by her husband and third, and filmed in close-up behavior of its partners as much evidence of the crime of which he is the victim. Other players have good justification, to prove their innocence, he hears nothing, obsessed by the images of deception.
Catherine remembers: ‘Every night I waited for him to have his back turned to his pockets. A new pen, a business card, an illegible name written on a calendar page, anything I could not help but consider each item found as evidence of treason. And every morning, I watched carefully: the slightest change, the slightest effort to be seductive, and I firmly believe he would spend the day with another. ‘
‘Jealousy is a form of paranoia, says Alain Krotenberg, a psychiatrist specializing in cognitive behavioral therapy (author of Envy to get better, with Luc Patry, Payot, 2001). But the paranoid has, by definition, never wrong, if he is convinced that his wife wants to cheat, nothing can shake. At least his suffering became too strong and difficult to sustain, no incentive to visit. Then the therapist to make him aware of the degree of pathological jealousy.
‘Initially, I asked the person maintain records jealous of how fast and how intense suffering occurs before, during and after his fits of jealousy,’ says Alain Krotenberg. This is the part called cognitive. The therapist then proposes a set of roles: ‘The patient gets into the skin of his victim, me in his, then we reverse. This approach allows behavioral jealous of awareness of what yad’excessif in its own way of acting and reasoning.Relatives may take part in therapy by participating in these role plays.
However, no spouse has, alone, how to help the jealous out of her obsessive pattern. The anxiety of it remains uncontrollable, obsessive and, above all, growing: ‘It starts with him swear that you love, that no one else can we attract, but it is not enough. After having herself received psychotherapy, Patricia, 39, finally divorce her husband too jealous. ‘To avoid arguments, I ended up breaking all my friends and leave my job until I found myself at home, no longer dare do anything and depressing. ‘
‘And even when the victim of jealous ends, enclosed, by not seeing anyone, sometimes the other becomes even jealous of his thoughts and say:’ She did not look happy with me, she always thinks to another, says Violaine-Patricia Galbert couples therapist.To get rid of those bad thoughts – experts speak of ‘cognitive distortions’ – the jealous must first understand what lies behind them. That is what some therapies, including psychoanalysis, working to reveal the past by looking at jealous. ‘The relationship with the mother being a loving relationship that the child does not share, jealousy in love is never a relationship reminiscent of that experienced in childhood,’ says Denise Lachaud, psychoanalyst.
For twenty years, Leo Lederrey, therapist and medical journalist, was a fierce jealousy, until he decided to turn to specialists. After attending several courses Gestalt therapy, rebirthing and bioenergy, he was released from his obsessive pattern: ‘I could understand where did my jealousy: I was raised alone by my mother one day … My father has suddenly reappeared for me ‘stealing’ the affections of the latter.’Since then, every man who approached too close to women he loved unconsciously assumed the role of’ thief of love. ‘ ‘This is a trauma that’s part of my story, a scar that will always be present, he adds. But because the therapy has enabled me to identify it, it makes me suffer more. ‘
According to Violaine-Patricia Galbert, ‘jealousy is first the desire to possess the other, the jealous he does not escape him.’ Behind this desire to hold lies a state of emotional dependency. ‘When he tried to justify his fits of jealousy, my husband kept telling me that he could never live without me, that the idea of being alone terrorized,’ says Patricia. The therapist’s job is then to remove the jealous of this symbiotic relationship by inculcating the principles of autonomy: ‘This is to teach him to grow alone without the other it serves as a substitute,’ says Violaine-Patricia Galbert.
very interresting article, which I think I recognize.I am a sickly jealous, lost. Recently married, two beautiful babies that we wanted and we love more than anything, I think the best thing for me and my husband, who can no longer would we divorcions.On can not imagine living any our lives like that. These are permanent conflicts always coming to me, I want to control everything. My jealousy is so intense that it makes me tear the body. I prefer to leave my husband and I will not have to ask me questions and above all I am free to experience other great adventures, which I miss very much. And that’s my problem, my husband did not suffer any ça.Il dreamed of a quiet life, full of love and instead is a permanent nightmare. I have great difficulty putting into practice the advice of John Gray. I need a therapist to none, find me good if you like!
I am also very jealous and possessive, but my friend already deceived and is constantly in seduction. He has a tremendous need to check its power of seduction. I am sure of her love but I do not trust him.I suffer this anguish that haunts me to be disappointed and angry. I ask questions in rehearsal. When we go out, I am concerned in that it is often a light emphasis on women. When we do the shopping there even seem to choose the cashiers to have some verbal exchanges with them. Imagine when I’m not there! He is very familiar and constant in the relationship. For a year he went on a forum rencontres.aujourd ‘hui he stopped because he said his teen crisis over! He is 46 and I 48. I would really like to be serene and trust him! I’m psycho therapy and had never suffered such agony before knowing. What to do?
to meet dedoralive it happens exactly the same thing with my friend, before you know, I never asked a question to the man with whom I lived, since I’m with him I come to the same track and often I realize that he is with other women rdv ^ that it continues to meet via the internet or it will find prostitutes.It has the same behavior as your friend, shops, parties, restaurants, when he may approach a woman he likes, even if I’m there ^ nothing can stop it and then when I make a scene He replied: It is simply because I am sociable and polite ….. I too am wrong and it was I who did not know that c ^ ‘that was to be jealous now that the horror and like you I ask questions all the time …… if someone has a solution ….
Sick with jealousy I fucked up my marriage ca been a month since we parted, he calls me regularly, I can not live without him but living with him and that was hellish paranoia continual . I consulted a psychiatrist for a year nothing has improved nothing. There does not groups of words for jealous is a disease that eats from within …. dig in my childhood I experienced a pain that I carry around but I can not control myself with regard to jealousy. Waiting too while I wait on the other I feel my jealousy as a handicap to succeed my love life doomed to loneliness love.I’m not at all jealous of my friends, their reactions how can you be an intelligent woman and sickly jealous ????? it is a work in this, but every day can help us?? low self-esteem?? do not get to manage the inevitable frustrations of everyday life?
hello if you think it is your destiny to find a way I know you will get there life is struggle and favors dialogue
I do not call pathological be jealous when you have been duped but just on your guard. However, we must monitor this feeling with which it quickly loses feet and makes us very unhappy. Resume confidence in you is the only way! Courage
I too am jealous but I control the extent he is reassuring, I think it’s a problem that caused the 50% confidence the way they look at other woman gets on my nerves and I did We should learn to live and not live for us through their actions, c zero out more, we must fight this, they should not surtut we compared with another or say:An example I like the sectional or has what I like her top, I am setter and I told him we’re going down vien asked him and he told me not gonna gone and I replied to the inter, I corige, because if I advanced with him, I must calm my mind, I also know that we are not immune to a break thank you
My husband is such a jealous, I think the exit. When I talk to another man I have to tell everything we talked, and whenever he asks me if he attracts me. I do not work, then he calls me everyday to check that I am at home. He even looking at the counter of the car to see if I left without telling him. But the worst thing since we internet: he suspects me of wanting to chat and make rencontres.Vraiment I can not stand this situation and the worst thing is that although having nothing to blame me, I feel uncomfortable when my ‘issues’. In short it is a vicious circle because he sees that I am uncomfortable and it strengthens his suspicions.I would like to consult, but he says it will not change the fact that during the day I can do what I want without knowing it! Help!
When I had a fit of jealousy often after an evening with friends where we find the great girlfriend ‘size 38’ up while you’re size 46 !!!!!! He might tell me he loves me I do not believe it. In fact I wonder why he would love me because I do not love me? I can not lose weight, I hate myself and I have someone to talk to. I would also be part of a discussion group. share my grief and that of others. To rescue I can not go, I do not want to go out and I suspect all his doings, his coming and going …. I began to search his business and I made lots of films to see him with another ….
So after I decided to call time last summer. Throughout those years told me he would stop the jealousy and unfortunately always came back stronger .. asked him to consult with him … but he told me it was me who had problems …So I decided not to accept this way of treating me and now we are separated since December 2006. I had to resist because it’s true .. I have always sold but now that my children are grown I want to live even though I keep a conviction for acts of daily living (go for a drink on the terrace with friends , but normally dress more feminine … etc. … see friends that I unfortunately lost sight because of this jealousy) … I do not understand why he never wanted to see! and he still refuses now also setting myself yet his choice of stroke (selling our house …). I think I will take a long time to live ‘normally’
Following this testimony fuirelejalouDonc because I need to talk about what I ke vécu.Bocoup of my relatives were unaware of the extent of my husband’s jealousy. My children were aware of them although I caved just to avoid the crisis before them. I meant at all, or all who suffer: React! do not let you quit. Nobody has the right to suppress, degrade … take the other as his thing. I have so much to say the above.I still need to ‘check the way if this or that is normal (clothing, attendance, personal development) … as a result of being belittled it forgets to be a woman and devivre normally … Please for reading.
Since 7 years I pursue psychotherapy to cure my excessive behavior jealous. The amorous encounters accumulate and trigger my jealousy implements doubt vis-à-vis the loyalty of my partner. Accordingly, I question my current therapy even if it revealed the causes of this behavior that go back of course to early childhood. So what do I do? how to solve this problem that is destroying me inside and keeps me from living peacefully in a relationship. So I’d like to hear from people who have suffered like me and have been unable to resolve, manage, improve or even cure this feeling of abandonment, no more or less effective as the other … In your writing, you will myself be a great help, especially if you confirm the possibility of cure. Thank you. Fabrice (Paris) May 8, 2007
My friend wanted to take a break after 3 weeks. Everything was going good until evening when we came out with his buddies at the bar and box. There were all kinds of girls next to me I felt so miserable … It goes to the TV programs, he then discovered my problem. I’ve ruined everything. I am not even sure to have him. Jealousy has destroyed almost all my love stories. I consult someone, but he did not intend to start a real therapy. Student in psychology, I know to explain this terrible default, I know the reasons (Child) but I suffer so much … Who could stand me? How to not express the possessive jealousy morbid? Control themselves? I already tried without success … I suffer from this disease since my youth (I am 25 years old) but she destroyed slowly, and especially my love life … How could I leave?
I love a man for nearly three years. Extremely jealous at first, I went through all the stages: the hatred, the breaks on the pretext that I was wrong, a label that stuck to me gradually slut, whore and so on.I justify myself to him constantly to reassure him (locations and hours .. it was with me at work …) He even said that he was convinced that I slept with youth and my nephew .. . He downgraded from his friends and family … Several breaks of course, why I feel guilty a lot, until I decided to stop to destroy me and refuse to wear this ‘skin’ that he had decided to put on me. I just told him after the umpteenth break I decided that it vomits more about me .. its Maletras (Married 24 years his wife cheated on his mother very authoritarian crushed him), he is divorced for almost two years. It has been two months since we separated.
My jealousy is quite recent. I myself was deceived by my old friend, who had never actually left his ex. Today I’m with someone very much but I’m obcédée by the image of his former girlfriend. I even searched her photo albums to compare myself to her as soon as he has his back turned.In everything I say or everything that lives two I see it. I feel in complete competition with her while my friend keeps reassuring me, telling me he no longer thinks of her. The problem is that for me it is there … touours I do not know what to do and this makes me very afraid.
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I think my morbid jealousy came from the fact that I’ve been deceived betrayed by the father of my children with whom I lived 15 years and that was after him is my brother and sisters and friends and today I mefie.Mais in fact in my heart I manage to forget the feelings that I m living and fantasy to deceive, knowing that I am unable to because I can not disperse and I do the same for my children.I try to detach myself from them or momentarily mn husband that entails that they sometimes feel that I am really distant but c is the only way that I have found not to suffer and not have them on the pretext that souffrir.Je mexcuse I am an eternal dreamer I love them so much.
Me my jealousy is unhealthy, I feel not up to par. I constantly depressed because I felt I mistaken, then that is wrong, the worst is that I is, but I did nothing. I love him so much that I do not know what to do to not lose it. I’ll try to follow the advice of the article, and I could see. I hope it’ll work because I really want him! and sense him I am nothing! thank you for your help on my AC article Pourkoi help understand and react quickly for the sake of my companions and my marriage. thank you again
I am divorced and last year I saw a man with a bit more attractive than my ex and insidiously J have started to become jealous of as he watched another woman I would gladly tear out the eyes. d in’m unhappy.but it is time to react because I ca poisons my life and hers. I looked at his laptop’s business that he had just taken back tourné.je appointment with a shrink as n having no confidence in me. the resulting problems to follow
Hello, I’m in a relationship with my friend for a year now, we know each other since our teenage years (I was about 13 years). We have to try several times to get together (my first boyfriend) but this will always result failure .. Until one day we actually find .. our relationship is now very serious, since I always have this fear of losing … I’m very jealous, the slightest word or gesture to any girl puts me in a state not possible even just a look on a girl makes me crazy .. It blights the lives we have both, it makes me sad me and depressed and I’m afraid that one day he gets bored and let myself fall .. This could be because I understood, my seizures are really unbearable … I think I need help …
Me, I realize that I’m jealous.and it hurts me, because I know it refers to a real lack of confidence in me. My friend and I, we love each other for a little over a year, I know his feelings about loyalty, I also know he is not jealous by nature. I know he loves me, but I’m jealous …. The worst part is that now I’m getting jealous of his work (he works a lot), I’m jealous because he spends less time with me is a passionate, he wants to go fishing, cycling, going to work … and me, I just want to be with him. But what I know is that this feeling reflects my lack of love and trust in me. and if I continue to react like that, I lose it on us.
Hello, I’m jealous since I was little sickly but today it really spoils life. I’m with my boyfriend for 1 year and I feel that my jealousy drunk. I moved to his hometown where he has his job, his sport, his friends and especially an invasive ex who still loves me and I don t do anything aside my studies, suddenly I can not stand it without me so or leave it alone when I leave work 2 hours from the house.I know he loves me and he does not deceive me but I searched anyway its business, its historical mails or msn conversation because it is surrounded by lots of chicks who are very cute and nice … . I do not know what to do, I dare not see a shrink to talk about it without him and I do not know if I understand it comes n not control my jealousy too!
I live with my partner as married and we have a little girl of 20 months, my jealousy is said since she deceived me with his ex 5 years ago for a goodbye to champagne, it has lost made her feelings for him. I discovered her cheating on my way home, I am left without letting me see the next day and seeing her, she played the innocent coming to spring at me, I braked and said everything I knew she was ashamed and felt humiliated, she explained the why of the thing, I suffered, I have forgiven him, but over time whenever there is a dispute, it happens to back on the past that continuous follow me and hurt me.His every gesture is for me suspicious. I’m an insanely jealous, I admit. she is tired of feeling like a princess in a cage dorée.Cela ruined my life, my household, I fear a separation because I love my family.
Hello, I am with my boyfriend for 5 months and already it starts to become hell because of my uncontrollable jealousy … I look everywhere, in his phone in his mail on his computer even I look in his eyes when we leave the street to see where they land and if he has the misfortune to watch a girl, I’m a crisis … I even stop to talk to girls … my jealousy makes me wrong, I do not know what to do … I think I really need help but I do not know who to return …
Help, I’m jealous Rouine me, I can not sleep, I control the laptop from my man, I’m the pockets, I’m jealous of everything that he can look at another girl, I searched his home, and I trove of photos of his ex, it made me mad, yet he is madly in love with me, we’re well together and nothing makes believe that he wants to be wrong, but my jealousy is OK, I still cry, I’m bad, bad, it it does reassure me that he told me that he wants to rebuild his life with me, that he wants to ‘marry’ with me, and I’m just thinking about it the fact that he can go with another … help me!
for over 4 years I live with a jealous obsessive. I knew from the start, but did not realize what it was. I have passed the stage of wanting to reassure him. There I did some more! I can not take it. Any of his questions m’insuporte. The permanent suspicion, searched my laptop. Compose my incoming calls to see who I call. Request a detailed account of my days. I can not look elsewhere .. he thinks I look at someone else.He thinks that people make fun of him on his way, convinced he is a cuckold. brief goes on. I was at the stage where I dared not even look someone in the eyes, my eyes were fuyantIl ruined everything. There is nothing worse in a relationship that lacks confiance.Il do not see how it unlivable. For him it’s natural! We have a child. I do not sacrifice. ! I’m not going to fade for peace and a peace of mind ‘.
and although I had this infernal jealousy, I can tell you that it unlivable and especially degrading, the suspicion permanent violation of my personal space do I tried several times to end the relationship, and I now refuses to get involved as it has not changed .. and yet it is not for lack of loving feelings .. if I can give you advice is to prepare yourself for the worst .. and especially not not believe that a permanent inquisition change anything if you lose your partner that will happen more quickly, or you may actually come to cause such loss ..
plutotgennakermoi I experienced this jealousy, mobile, email, calendar I suppose, in short inquisition Total ..the result is catastrophic, to the point of trying several times to put a definitive end to the relationship, far from protecting the couple excessive jealousy may delete it, why not accept life as it is .. if the partner is unfaithful if it leaves no use to persecute! In any case, the perpetual conflict is the best way to lose the other ..
Hello jai bcp read the article and comment. I myself was a victim of my jealousy and in my case it was Substantiated my ex told me and kept saying that I’m paranoid. On us Sommen reoncontré LZE chat.toue go very nice if it is Eele doce totu changed after May completemnt 180 each time that I diansaids me soupçont Eel must ceser contcater of his ex because it seria I bear it. she never cease to tell me between him I finished c and c ami.ell just so I discovered my quiiter Eel are together. I knew him fesait its posible that I quit. tjr I told him that one day he FINRA by destroying our love. and that this product after sy. contcatér She is telling me I’m dsl because I did not believe him.but she contcaé uniqumenet because his ex was crazy to antiquity. dire.lorqsue what I’ve said before with ql otus of these soupçont unqiemnt c thou hast viewed CCleaner trusting eyes and Jamis qlq1 to that and say I vindra u gadfly femme.Et lea marie or your person should meter points on 3i ‘c ^ s re you are 10% and that the person who leaves is a liar and says Jamis he / she will change so good luck rgele suspicion is that it must Taes etere melted is 100%
In my opinion some people cause UNCONSCIOUSLY, despite them, jealousy. In the words they use, their silences, their absences, their eyes, the time devoted to the other … they maintain the doubt because they know not interact, exchange … They turn their love is their partner in jealousy (which is only a symptom of love). These provocative-unhappy-jealousy have so many problems to solve than the deep jealous themselves. The jealous / her must also realize that in order to finally ‘breathe normally’. Jealousy is the diversion and it’s tiring. This is just my opinion … (I am fortunate to no longer be for a very long time).
hello my husband is a jealousy not possible, it will soon be 2 years that vi Overall, I do not work, he called me several times a day on the sets to see if I am at home I n ‘t have the right to watch TV because there are pictures q’il do not want me watching, he sometimes goes out at night to his association but before leaving it unplugged all the TV, computer (with Besides, he put the parental control on internet so he could look after the Hitori), and he has crossed cables for he sees on his return if I reconnected during his absence, no girlfriend, no need not to kiss men, no décolter, no makeup, no skirt, no sweater that hides fesses.J not have tried to persuade him that he sees a shrink, no question should not even him talk because supposedly the problem is more one moi.On is me being a mixed couple musilmane (not practitioner) he thought I portet the burqa as these poor women they see on TV, I said the woman did not say no to her man, he’s the leader must sécraser.I’m so tired that when I shaved half my head, I swallowed the drugs in short quoi.aidez hell I do not know what to do??
Hello, I risk being taken to the intruder in these comments or this article, but I really need help. Well, I am 15yrs and I been together for 2 years soon with a boy of 17. And since the beginning, I am a very big part jealousy and wonder if it is not morbid. It began with the suppression of all girls are telephone directories, all the girls in their MSN, blog and Facebook. That to continue with the ban on talking to girls or even say hello, including his only cousin with whom he often spoke before. I’m at a point where I say ‘thank you God, he has no sister.’. And if in the street, he would have the misfortune to turn your head in the wrong place, wrong time, he takes full head for a long time … That’s my problem, I’re only 15 years old and I already kills with her ..So for people who would think to put ‘You’re still a kid, you’re in crisis.’ Thank you but I need your’re not reflection, if I post a comment today because I es need it, I suffer for over a year and a half and I would get out of this ‘hellish vortex. Knowing that what I have to score there, it’s just a sample of my character. So what can I do to get out of her?
hello, I’m also jealous that’s really a disease for me, I no longer have to live properly, I destroy my couple.J’ve always felt that my husband will go with someone else. For I’m crazy, I searched his phone, which is in the street I only watch him to see if it does not look elsewhere, I even created a crisis of jealousy for people he knows, relatives had him …. Of that quarrel, I often return to the subject of his ex .. he thought he was crazy to tell me her royally, I continue to be afraid. I cop too, I rotten life, and I could mine as well. I am no longer me.I can really do anything for him, especially when I am in crisis. (I already had ideas black) I really love most of all, thanks to him I’m leaving a misery which I had fallen (alcohol etc. …). I already thought was going to see a psychologist (I still think) I have now changed so as not to lose the man I love, I suffer, I cry, I is peur.Cela no life. please help me how to fight against this disease? how to change? thank you
Hello, I live with my boyfriend from hell. he is morbidly jealous that I have more friends, I do not even see my famille.J I found a little job there a year after the birth of my little boy, and since nothing goes . It comes unexpectedly at my job search my phone, no talking or watching a homme.maintenant he wants me to stop working PCQ believes I have an affair with my boss because I u up status of last month! he made death threats to some colleagues, etc …I feel it when I get dressed, he does not I put perfume or that I make up for work, he leads me, he does not want me to take the car apart from any that I am seule.je emprisonè.Il completely delirious , said that I left the night while I was sleeping beside him, etcC’est unbearable, I love her with all my heart but I destroyed completement.Comme I have nobody, I do not know where to go if I want to leave and there’s my son 1an1 / 2 in the middle of everything! help
Hello, forgive me my french but I’m original Nerland, I read this article and I recognize myself in it I realized I ette y ‘a sickly little jealous because this disease does not live to see it first it looks like more a lack of confidence in the person you love. but I resent act opened my eyes at least I’m caught right in the figure I reached full ette of this disease.I already ette jealous a bit because my relationship anchien cest ends after my ex girlfriend my trunk with a person who loved me ette ette as I grind and I think being able to live a real love, but then there ‘s my wife now she hu I give the confidence and security at least what I believe it to friends whose beaucoup beaucoup who only want a good chosse but I ette Donque they loose the grip and quiet we live together we achter a house and married cest . one day we INVOICING the liver one I ette coli alone for the receipt, and Ive opened my surprise he has a leter and contenee chosse personele achter New? I request or submission is that because it was like an Easter ette returns to sender jai read the leter that ette intended for my ex-lover and feme or in the leter ette mark if he wanted to marry her that not only aure he had to tell her and show her that she ette important to him and not after him because it hurts to know.I direct him to ask revenire has the house to explain that because I comprent not act her she came back but didn’t say anything sauffe evening Bismillah, because I’m home from work, she told me that AC ette devinitif to cut the deck, I lai thought but discovered that she still talk on the net or by phone sms good but I’m not TRACASA and I took on me, it sertain time a ette then a day I Beux apersu a conversation on msn with a guy I do conais not be discussing this on the sex I told her that this did not make or model unless speaks with me and she told me not in my back while I work.cest a Beaujour is because the computer and play this kind was taking more and more space in my relationship with ritme morning noon and night as they chat hu Aien the undersigned with their neighbor mesa probleem couple of his friends made me parte a chosse (she will not say all) thank you but I dislike this phrase meant and why to say it like over time I doubt more and more convinced that I was stupid and jai meter of a spy on his computer to see what it said betis because AC has done more harm than evil but saw his reaction Bismillah, because I told him I knew what was happening and jai cest ecrtite the person about to wield explecit show my displeasure and she cest shines in telling me that she does what she wants and that I should not be afraid … mmm’oui not mistaken she saw that the person continues to be more present than they ought to say that she returned lordi hop hop and throw a fucking msn jai na it’s useless.aler well one day while she asks me to print a chosse of its PC and these Dosier I come across a photo that you will let me say no more my wrong I doubt she’d prove to me a photo of her with another I will not say how held but you aure including jai geule I’m pissed off but not a threatening gesture or bodily geule just the child but the ette ette more I realized their presence is gone this day telling me that she had reflecire ette because it hurt.I told him that she returns to ring and she says that nest but returned the next day and my only ette everything she said yes my mistake because it malere ette in this situation because I watched it too I speak cest have forgiven him but has only provided that model and said to me that if she talk to another that she hides, and especially not that it dont ave this type of contact she accepts a HeLa but found his telefon I see it sms him again since I’ve been watching every move the displacement can suport I know nothing because Bismillah, because I want to tell him of my fears and my feeling she put the case directly before divorse nose and jai again I write something stupid a person with whom she speaks that preson chosse ask him if he did not want it (make love because of a cest these fantasy) the jai ette very corect in my mail but I find that move and I felt menos of horeur relive this moment to say that that day or the ette jai discovery that she had deceived the shots I took of a cest rendezvous psychiatrist to see what I can do this jaloussi cons who put my marriage in trouble and what the I risklosing only chosse that the value in my eyes my little family. I know beaucoup jealous say they love their wife and that he learned to live without them but I know what I’ve what I may lose a plateau of this disease I never mistaken and never jai lai Hosse was talking with another girl sex ’cause I respect my wife and I do not what else I would not make me one and I would also like to redo chosse I no longer say, since this disease has a drink with friends vere labor or at a friend betment aler craft ect but plateau of the disease and little help from my meter to a feme end this spiral I can not for ca cest I think a psychiatrist for help me better understand myself and help overcome my fear of losing a mesa ca
I myself am super jealous and I realize that my husband’s ordeal endured I often think to consult a psychiatrist to understand these doubts or fears come this lack of confidence in me because it makes me and destroyed my marriage but it destroys it is not easy to make the leap …
When I read all these comments sorry I hurt for all those who suffer from this disease. I’m not a sickly jealous and I must admit that I sometimes difficult to understand people who are. This article enlightens me at least some aspects of the problem and I finally know why it is impossible to reason with people who are basically jealous. I would say to all those who are wrong in their life because of this problem, the most important point in this article, the ‘behavioral specialist’. To those who are in treatment for many months or years and that it does not ‘give anything’ as those who seek to correct their problem, I would strongly advise them to seek a therapist who specializes in this particular field. Because even if you’ve found an excellent therapist, the fact remains that everyone is more or less specializes in a particular area. I wish you all good luck
I’m in a somewhat delicate j’i met my friend in a hospital because he had just been fired by his wife who was tired of his behavior!Of course in such situations is each has its share of rsponsabilité. He says he cheated because she did not want to have with him! So inevitably he has deceived and suddenly after twenty years of marriage and two children, she filed for divorce.I’ve fallen completely in love with him and is not an empty word love at first sight as they say since no one is to leave, but he also needs to please all women, most of it is charming and therefore it works, last year he had a little adventure just a kiss with a woman, but I felt once I lost 10 kgs I expressed to him is because I watched on the net and I left the morning with a knot in my stomach I could not go in so we talked and he told me he loved me ct ct and that he lived with me, but this does not prevent to be registered on dating sites and not many sites to watch porn while I’m thinking I give everything I can so that it can flourish and recontruire please answer me because I am a end and as he struggles to communicate more and I’m afraid of losing despite all this I do not know what to do thank you in advance for your reply
hello all, is not very reassuring what I just read, yet my girlfriend is jealous, very!it manifests itself in crisis, yesterday it accused me of having deceived because a dvd had moved during his absence and no place for reasoning, the more I tried to prove that c was a trivial detail and that it was imagined many things of a detail, I felt more persuaded otherwise. ultimately, she waited for sleep that I search my bags and my laptop to find it out there I know what he saw that nothing was found nya! c is a difficult situation because I share taf for the week and that she works most we.sa been almost two years that we’re together, I know that she was betrayed SEVERAL faith before me, but I pay for eux.pourtant I am most sincere and faithful to her, I’s never strut a womanizer, not macho or sweeper for a penny, I would even say that g Souffir this behavior vis a vis my father! it connai my past, she knows that I’m staying before her 6 years and only tried to explain g that it completely overwhelms me, it does not change rien.Je does not come out at night without her, no friends g m and I is not so bad, but I’m a little short of an idea!I married her in August, and I do not seen to lose under any circumstances, I may voi although it does suffer, and I love her to arrange, if someone has an idea I’m interested, thank you
Hi sarah I Mapelli I sor a 4-year history has ended ki c coz sum of my jealousy maladive.nous depui kelke separate day and yet I control my pa Nariva jalousie.jai ETR ki mete lost the loved one cose This jealousy and possessiveness ki me fai avc enormemen soufrirjaimeré spoke of persone ki live the same thing moijété jealous ke o punch not want to kil é pa 1seul kille girl friend does not watch tv parl pa ocun daughter has kil Envoy 1fille her makes me histérik mbrisé lcoeur parck and a side of girl I ke me voi otour sen ridiculeje I do trust him Ajmeer fai and he lied to my pendan 2an ayan afraid of reactions and c lies mintenan ke lai I’ve APPRI I saw some rain jr 1nui or san i pencéma jealousy mempeche to live following a dangerous condition I suffer depressive totalmen énormémen jai daidepensé you need kune therapy can get out of? Vou think that one little cure of such jealousy?
Hello I lived more than 3 years in a relationship with a woman she was insanely jealous of one I could not lift her head to the beach in the street that we passed another woman she took my hand she was inspecting the computer of that J had his back turned yet I am a serious man I have never deceived a woman. she was frightened for no troubles. all this has led to a separation a few months ago she was taken she told me to leave three days after she m so I called him back I missed in 2 ½ years she fucked my 5 times out and the day I took the decision not to return because it would eventually make me peter plombs.durant the three months I’ve been thinking about bcp everything that was happening and I am sure that she is paranoid. difficult to have contact with her phone as she get angry soon. she saw a psychiatrist and was under arrest anti depressants she stopped too. do you follow because it rapidly worsened her albert
Well, in my case, I am a man sharing my life with a very jealous woman.I say that I love very strong and that our agreement on all fronts is flawless, especially sexually seulement.Et but not yet at the time of this writing, I feel this tension more intolerable, the permanent suspicion, due to the waking up at night to explain a messages found in my laptop, these surprise appearances at the bottom of my desk, simply because it lurks in my neighborhood and did not see my car, and is therefore convinced that I do not know where I am, of course with another woman, these eyes on me constantly to scan up my thoughts, not necessarily just can coupables.Je more. For several years I have rejected many requests received, including my workplace, because actually, I am often complimented, and that sort of thing. And in the end, I went several times to the brink of the plunge.The evil spirits will say that I am looking for excuses, but we do not take my mind that if my partner did not weigh on me this wall of silence, these criticisms, because I hung up too quickly, because I did not tell him twenty times that I loved her, how I loved that it was forever that I will never deceive the … Damn! Damn! Damn! Will she win in the end is that I find a woman who loves me less, but that is not used every day to make my life impossible, I would not feel suspicious moods at all times, and does not intrude this tension more insupportable.Le result is that the moment I write these lines, his eyes suspiciously on this new lighter that I own, this number scribbled on a piece of paper, etc. I hate it, simply.
This article is very interesting, I identify very well over there!Following a friend who had been unfaithful, I developed a kind of trauma, every man I see near my girlfriend, laughing with her, have physical contact with it makes me mad with rage … I never found a solution to this, and I was always afraid it leaves me to ça.Que do?
I’m jealous of my husband as to stay in front of the door sil toillette hear about her or I am ill pa I searched all over this affair in his computer as Memel I accept neither pa kil travel alone I know what I’m lattend the bottom too tired even jai pensser a divorce like that suffers more I will be away from me and I loublirai time with 3 children and we ca me fai Dailleurs the bad I cry and I fai is hiding all the time what to do … ……….
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Psychologies Magazine
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Jealousy or envy is pain felt when we see or we imagine the joy of another person. It may well be jealous of someone because he owns a house, a spouse that is fine, no problems etc.. Jealousy can be linked to the fact that another person has something we do not, or the fear of losing what one has the benefit of someone else. Jealousy in love is related to the fact that someone else is benefiting from the presence to be desired, while jealous person does not benefit, this frustration is accompanied by the fear of losing the desired being.
Philosophical approaches to jealousy
Vision Girard
According to mimetic theory of Rene Girard, jealousy is a moment in the dynamics of human desire. It is inherently mimetic, that is to say that our desire is borrowed from a model who wants or has the object before us, and whose be fascinates us.The jealous man is convinced that being jealous is ahead in the possession of the object and it prohibits access. Complacency to maintain this feeling is that the existence of the obstacle posed by the jealous rival, reinforces the value of the object of rivalry, which increases the fascination of being happy which is supposed to rival the ideal of non-conscious subject.
According to Henri Laborit
Henri Laborit uses a different approach in which there is in itself neither jealousy nor instinct of property, but simply that we would build over time, and sometimes from the very early childhood, models combining the concept of deprivation than pain, and then unconsciously seek to create conditions to avoid these hazards pain.
Philosophical approaches to jealousy
Vision Girard
According to mimetic theory of Rene Girard, jealousy is a moment in the dynamics of human desire.It is inherently mimetic, that is to say that our desire is borrowed from a model who wants or has the object before us, and whose be fascinates us. The jealous man is convinced that being jealous is ahead in the possession of the object and it prohibits access. Complacency to maintain this feeling is that the existence of the obstacle posed by the jealous rival, reinforces the value of the object of rivalry, which increases the fascination of being happy which is supposed to rival the ideal of non-conscious subject.
According to Henri Laborit
Henri Laborit uses a different approach in which there is in itself neither jealousy nor instinct of property, but simply that we would build over time, and sometimes from the very early childhood, models combining the concept of deprivation than pain, and then unconsciously seek to create conditions to avoid these hazards pain.
Jealousy love
Jealousy in love is an emotion impression of aggression that is the consequence of fear of losing a loved one or the exclusivity of his love for the benefit of another person – feelings that can be based on imagination. When it is permanent, jealousy is a form of paranoia and is attached to a ‘love’ on a possessive way. In ‘Othello or the Moor of Venice ‘William Shakespeare’s Iago to describe jealousy as a’ green-eyed monster which produces the food that he eats ‘
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