Fais moi confiance
Fais moi confiance
Milena: Hello Doctor. Here I am with my boyfriend for 4 years, everything was fine, but I wanted more things (having a child, living with him, etc..). He will hear nothing, a result I felt rejected and I had the opportunity to get to know someone else and we are very much in love (this is the first time I deceived my friend). He (the other) is in the same situation as me with her friend. Since I do most anchors when I interact with my friend but with my ‘lover’ and yes it does feel like making love with his girlfriend. This is starting to cause us problems. We feel a terrible attraction towards each other but we can not (and do not want) to leave our partners because we want them anyway. In addition, there is the distance that separates us (3 hours by train). I’m sick, all that we do not find in our partner, we found it together. We make plans knowing that they are not feasible. What can we do? Thank you in advance.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern:I have no ready solution for you, especially that there are several partners in this story. Weigh the pros and cons, and let things settle down, and the decision will seem clear on one point.
Milena: But about sex what can I do with my partner because it is clear that I force myself a little while ago with my lover’s desire.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: The heart has its reasons which reason knows nothing. You want to continue with your companion while the desire is elsewhere, the situation is difficult!
Aleksa: Doctor, I have a problem in my sex … Penetration is pretty painful, I feel I have something bent on the ‘wall’ …
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: There is normally no anatomical barrier to penetration, but if you have any doubt you should consult a doctor, what you feel is probably a muscle spasm.
Abdelq: Hello!I wonder if having moles on testicles can be dangerous? And especially if they evolve? Can we get them removed?
Aleksa: Well, the penetration is difficult and painful as an obstacle rather hard as a bone, it seems silly to say this, but that’s the impression I have.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: There is no bone there, that’s for sure, but when there is a muscle spasm that can totally prevent penetration.
Gadxm: Hello. Well, I’m 20 and I think having erection problems. I wish I knew how much it costs an average consultation with a sexologist? How to choose the sex therapist? And is reimbursed by the social security? Thank you.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: The price of a consultation with a sex therapist is very variable. Ask the price by making an appointment and ask if the consultation will be refunded. There are consultations at the hospital who are very cheap.To choose a sex therapist, it is best to ask a doctor whom you trust …
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Feu62: Good evening, Doctor. Is it normal that I can not let me go if there is light? I have been married 16 years, I can not watch my partner make love, let alone me, and have fun. He wants so much. I tried it and it makes me very uncomfortable and prevents me from continuing.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: You are modest and it bothers you to imagine your partner watch you when you have an orgasm, like a fear of being judged. Try the dim light, and talk with your partner about your fears.
Fabien42: Hello. I have a small problem when I make love with my girlfriend and there is sex, I ejaculate too fast. How can I fix this, please? Thank you in advance
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern:This is very common, the best is to focus on your pleasure, but the risk is that it worries you so that you end up anticipating the premature ejaculation. Right now, you can follow the interactive approach to address a couple to premature ejaculation, online, on Doctissimo.
Mica: Are there different forms of priapism? My partner told me that I have a constant erection all night in my sleep. Is this normal? Is this a case of priapism? Is this dangerous? Thank you …
Impulse: Hello, I’m 16. I badly want my boyfriend but I fear our very first sex. Another thing, how the contour pubic hair removal? I do not know what else to do to get everything perfect for this first time. Thank you for responding.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: It is normal to have some apprehension for the first intercourse, be focused on your desire is the most important. For waxing the pubic area, avoid depilatory creams that can cause allergy.
Jenny: Is it normal not to feel desire toward the person you love? ? I’m with him for 5 years, I love him more than anything but I never wanted him (while he instead has kept wanting me). It’s really the only thing that is a problem between us. I really do not know what to do, because I do not see him suffer, but I do not force me constantly to make her happy. Is there a solution? Thank you.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: Since when do you want more? Maybe if your partner is always requesting it prevents you from having time to feel your desire. How is communication in your marriage? You say through sexuality is something you can not otherwise make, tell you this is the best treatment.
Lila: I am 20 weeks pregnant and I suffer from pain down the spine, what is it due? I also have the placenta is below the baby which – according to my gyno – is the cause of the pain I have.The location of the placenta may be serious? Thank you …
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: Low back pain is very common, unfortunately we do not use any painkillers or anti-inflammatory usual, the best solution is rest. Do you have a good bedding? It is very important for the back.
Feu62: I told my husband, we tried the soft lighting, music, etc.. but my discomfort is difficult to bear. I just want to know if this is normal, after all this time to be bashful. Is that modesty can be treated …
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: The best way is to talk, the more you’ll create a verbal intimacy without embarrassment and without shame, the greater your freedom for your body. But talking about it can be difficult, there is also a fear of not being understood, to be tried is a way to show her vulnerability and why it takes a lot of confidence.
The chip: I had been pregnant for the first time (I’m 32 years old).Unfortunately it ended Monday with a small miscarriage (early because I was pregnant than twenty days at most). Since I am a fountain of tears. Disappointment past do you think it is possible to start a pregnancy? Do I interpret this bleeding to rules of this month? My cycle is to be disturbed, no? Should I take my temperature and my new assessment and ovulation date? Do I not do blood tests to check my hormone levels in case I find it difficult to ‘fix’ the egg? Thank you for reassuring me and especially to try to explain this accident.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: A very early miscarriage does not worry the doctors. I understand your disappointment, but at least you know you can be pregnant. Take it on the positive side, you can become pregnant from the next period without worry.
RebeccaI’m hardly wet when I’m under the caresses of my partner, although I take pleasure, I find it quite uncomfortable … Why?
YS: Hello Doctor. Here I have a problem with my wife, she is always afraid in sexual contact (it will not let me penetrate her vagina with my penis). The gynecologist advised her to see a psychologist but my wife does not trust the psychologist. Another thing, my wife and I were very good contacts, she is a teacher at university, I’m 11 years older than she, and now she is afraid of separation and myself, because I n ‘sometimes not even to satisfy my pleasure, and it becomes a handicap for me. Doctor, find me a solution, for documents or treatment, thank you.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: The fear of your wife can not deal with a recipe. Would be best to consult a couple or, perhaps, as you have advised, go see a psychologist.But if she does not trust, then we need you to accompany her because she is afraid of the reports, but you can not help to address this fear, so you’re all both involved in this story.
Fawn: I am 30 years old, my husband 39. Remarriage for him, the first marriage for me, a child himself, 0 for me. At first, the sexual level everything was fine. Then bang bang … after having made the acquaintance of her child, our reports were spaced … (after 4 months) … (gynecological concerns, fatigue, lack of confidence vis-à-vis me from my husband arguments …) the whole anthology … A month ago I was on the verge of divorce … In summary, I have more desire, more desire, more fun … nothing more … I read books on the question, seen a sexologist with him and without him … for ten sessions and so far, I feel more motivated … no … no longer know if I still have feelings, continue like that … It is a And hell … I can not get out …
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: Your sexual difficulty is in difficulty it seems compared to her first child. Do you have time together? Why does everything collapsed all of a sudden? …
Almost Mom: Pregnant, I normally give birth to December 20, gold my gynecologist recently told me that my baby was breech. That worries me! Can he return before the end of my pregnancy, but a vaginal birth is still possible in this position (even if it is a big baby)? Thank you for your clarification.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: The fetus may return before the birth. If this is not the case, your midwife will judge according to the dilation and measurement of the basin if the delivery can be done vaginally …
Nono: I’ve detected toxoplasmosis in May (IGG IGM = 182 = 3.27), I had several months of antibiotics, I am not even since early August, I am better but my rate are still high (IGG IGM = 114 = 1.2).Can I try to get pregnant or should I wait?
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: IgG antibodies are that you will keep all your life, IGM mark a recent infection, but if you are being treated for a long time maybe you can become pregnant. We must seek advice in a specialized in parasitology or in a maternity ward, someone will answer you more accurately …
Salam111: Hello. Please I have already asked my question but I did not answer. I am a 35 year old man, I never slept with a woman, I love to masturbate and watch porn K7. In addition I have a small penis (12 cm). Am I normal? ? Thank you so much …
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: Of course you are normal since you’re happy with your situation. The size of your penis is normal, the erection is most important.
Mie: Dear Doctor, my problem is the opposite of many: I feel no need to go to the toilet!Although I drink enough, I know stay 12 hours without urinating and swollen but I have severe pain when I force myself to clear my time was literally to force pressure on the bladder. Apart from some occasional cystitis, I have no particular pathology. I think it is psychosomatic because I suffer less from me. I’m also constipated, but this is less embarrassing. Can you answer me please because it poisons my life. Thank you in advance!
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: Do not hold too much urination, but there is no problem to contain. Do you drink enough, you should drink 1.5 liters of fluid per day. Maybe you are repelled when you do not know the toilet?
Abdelq: Is it normal for a woman to have a lot of bleeding (flowing abundant) in his first report? In fact she was a virgin, it would not stop bleeding and it scared me. Is this bleeding normal?
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern:The bleeding may be very abundant, but this should not be bleeding if it is necessary to consult a hospital emergency room to understand what is happening.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: Normally the testicles do not hurt, I advise you to consult a doctor, this may be your GP who will tell you whether to consult a specialist, do not stay with this pain.
Mater: I am 34 years old. Since I am pregnant I have no connection with my husband (40 years), I did not want to. Is the desire back? This is our first child. Our relationship has deteriorated and I have no moral about us but so happy to have a baby. I also fear of childbirth, it is scheduled for early January. In addition it is a big baby and next week I do a pelvic radio. Thank you.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: It is a pity not to have intercourse during pregnancy, there is, unless otherwise doctors, no cons-indication to have intercourse during pregnancy.The arrival of a child disrupts the relationship, each must find its place in this new relationship. Keep your relationship as you will after delivery monopolized by the newborn. It is normal to worry a bit childbirth, talk to childbirth preparation. Our best wishes for baby’s arrival.
SD: Hello! One issue that saddens me a bit: I’m afraid of having sex with my husband because I am 4 months pregnant and a week, and I do not feel like making love as before pregnant! Is this normal? Thank you in advance.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: The libido during pregnancy is variable, but less has been reporting less you want to have! There is no risk for pregnancy to have sex, and you preserve your sexuality during pregnancy the more you’ll soon find yourself with your spouse after the birth.
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USS: What can I do for my wife behaves like a normal woman:interested to make love normally (our reports are summarized in 1 max per month)? I did everything with her, nothing to do. It’s more a chore than a pleasure. During the act I did everything with it, the unthinkable … Nothing, she does not want to hear about the psychiatrist. What do other than divorce or go elsewhere? Thank you for advising me.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: What do you mean by normal? What are your gaps? Are you listening, what are his desires and expectations? How is your relationship outside of sex? If there are many tensions that can not explain his desire, if she did not enjoy it as a reason for not desire.
Kally: Hello, I find your column interesting and I want to ask you a question. Well, I live with a man for over 3 years, we work together, but we no longer love for months.I told him about it, explaining that I ask myself a thousand questions but he said he did not head it, that’s not what’s important , it is independent, the worries are the same for every 2 and with that I no longer want. Thank you to tell me what you think …
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: Maybe the fact not conducive to working together does not desire. The companion becomes a co-worker and intimacy is the work that dominates the conversation topics, killing any possibility of reconciliation. Lack of desire is perhaps the distance required to not feel too fusional …
Del: Hello Doctor, I’m 22 and I’m with my boyfriend for 4 years but since my first sex I always felt pain in the vagina and it has not changed since that time. so I have more reports and my boyfriend knows that I suffer every time. The gynecologist said that my bone is very large and she prescribed me a cream but nothing changes. I’m desperate, what can I do?
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: Maybe you do not understand but there is no bone to the vagina. To overcome this contraction you should try to relax the pelvic floor muscle, why the position where the woman is above is more favorable, and we must simultaneously push out as if you wanted to reject the penis . If this does not, I urge you to consult a doctor about it all …
Sebspike: I’m 22, my girlfriend 20, it does not (or very little) the penetration, it has no pleasure in it, she said she had problems of sexual touching when she was small. What can we do to have relations ‘normal’? Thank you for your help.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: It would be nice for your partner to consult and the best thing you can consult together, so you can free yourself from this problem. Maybe all is not related to the touching, but it is anyway very disturbing and should take notice …
Paradise:Hello. I have a problem that may sound stupid but I spoil life. I kept wanting to go to the bathroom. I can go 5 times in an hour then stop for 2 hours while I have no more drinking at any time. Explanation? So I avoid drinking, yet I still liquid even though I do not eat as much fruit and vegetables than that. Mystery. Wherever I go, I find the bathroom before, so I know there is none, I’m not going. This prevents me from doing many things. Sometimes at night I wake up 5 times when I did not drink and I can go 2 to 10 consecutive minutes at a time when I had emptied the first time. Thank you in advance to tell me what are the solutions to this stupid problem.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: The need to urinate often associated with arousal. If you are worried and wondering all the time where are the toilets, it is already creating stress.You should try when you’re at home, to hold you and then you may find that you can retain a lot more than you think. Otherwise there is a rehabilitation made by the physiotherapists to learn to restrain himself and, especially in your case, no longer fearing anguished urge incontinence.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: No, you can use tampons at each cycle, but what is needed is not to forget to change them regularly.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: For now the implants are not yet marketed in France, but this does not delay is expected for 2001. For now, you can purchase those in some departments of gynecology. For reimbursement must wait for the market to see if they will be refunded.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: This is entirely preventable, why we must be aware of the problem. Why do you have these concerns?Tell your friend, he may be afraid to reproduce the same scenario he has seen, but it is by no means a certainty, and often quite the opposite.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: The first period can come up 17 or 18 years without any pathology. Have you already signs of puberty: growth, early appearance of breasts, pubic hair on and under the arms? In this case everything is normal and the rules are coming.
Dr. Helene Jacquemin The Vern: If you do not have frequent bladder infections, do not worry, it’s not urine retention, you certainly have a large capacity bladder, and you may be ill at comfortable if you can not be known. Again remember to drink enough each day.